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Self Worth: A Powerful Tool in the Vibrant Life – Quiz Included

Vibrantly healthy and successful people have a sense of self worth. This self love or self-esteem is the notion that we are valuable and deserving of success, love, and respect. It’s a soft feeling of easy nurturance and caring for oneself.

Our childhood experiences play a part in what we think we are worth. If our parents had low self image, they modeled this, and soon we too felt we weren’t good enough. If we were bullied or mistreated, if our boundaries weren’t respected, if expectations were too high for our developmental level, if we were in a stressed environment, (and the list goes on) we began to believe something was wrong with us. When this happens, we can come to believe that we deserve the mistreatment and then perpetuate the belief by unconsciously choosing people and situations that continue to mistreat us.

So I am here to tell you, if you are stuck in a cycle where deep down inside you secretly know you are not good enough or worthy of good things, that deep down you aren’t like other people because you are flawed, I am here to tell you you are mistaken. It just doesn’t work that way. Life is a dance between what we are and what we can be. It’s time for you to take matters into your own hands. I challenge you to increase your self worth.

The reason it’s called self worth is because you determine it. At the end of the day, you are the one that gets to decide if you deserve respect and love…and then give it to yourself. Still, if it’s helpful in any way, let me affirm for you, just by being here on this blue turning ball in the stars: You deserve friends who are good listeners and want you to be the best you can be. You deserve to eat healthy, vibrant food that makes your body feel good. You deserve love. You deserve to have your needs met. You deserve to feel safe. You deserve to feel nourished and healthy and alive. You deserve to feel good about your body and your sexuality and the way you look.

How we value and feel about ourselves affects every area of our lives: relationships, career, parenting, and our own self-care and health. It’s powerful because it’s often unconscious and unexamined. In other words it has an influence even when you’re not aware that your self worth is playing a part.

Self worth comes across in our body language, the way we communicate, the way we carry ourselves. It plays a part in all the choices we make, who we date or choose as a partner, the goals we set or the dreams we let go.

If we suspect our self worth could use a little work, what next? Increasing self worth begins when you take an interest in yourself, when you bring awareness to the story you tell yourself about yourself. Become curious about what it really means to love yourself.

Suzanne E. Harrill is a writer and licensed counselor who has created a self esteem quiz. It’s not meant to be a precise test, think of it as a great starting point to identify areas you can strengthen. You can even use the questions as affirmations to build the muscle of self worth.

Whether you take the time to check it out or not…either way your self worth has a huge effect on your life. For some it may take a leap of faith, awkwardly saying affirmations, that at first, aren’t even believed. If you fall into this category, push through, go through the motions until you do believe in yourself. Please have the courage to be imperfect and love yourself anyway. You deserve it.

9 replies
  1. Mahra
    Mahra says:

    Oh Colleen, how I love you so. I have told you this before, and I will tell you it again, it makes me feel better to just know you are out there, on this big blue ball, sharing space with me. I like it better when that space is about the size of a table : ), but just knowing you are here, with me…there are not words. I needed to hear that. I love you sister crimson hair.

  2. Megan
    Megan says:

    Love it sister! This is something that we all need to think about from time to time- I think our self worth can vary depending on where we’re at- at different points in our lives. It’s good to consider this, and check in with ourselves!

  3. Dr. Julie Macecevic
    Dr. Julie Macecevic says:

    It strikes me too, that we have to check in regularly in this regard. It is a life long process and it is easy to become unconscious about the little ways we begin to cheat ourselves in the effort to get ahead, to make more money, to please more people. As a psychologist, I will never forget the wise words of one of my teachers in graduate school. She told me to consider my clients and whether I would have them working with a therapist who is well-balanced, healthy, happy, etc., or one that is overworked, unhealthy, not taking care of herself. You can plug into that thought your kids, your significant other, your parents, etc. As a helping person who tends to put others’ well-being before my own, this has been an affirmation that has helped me much. It is so lovely to be in control of my thoughts, behaviors and feelings such that I can choose to be a person I would admire. Thanks Colleen!

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